Posted: January 17, 2011 in Creative Inspiration
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Good morning good creative people,

Today I would like to speak with you all about happiness

Is seems to me that happiness is quite the popular buzzword these days: Feeling down? It’s not your fault! Take this pill and finally be happy! Need to lose some weight? Is it effecting your mood? Well not to worry – it’s got nothing to do with you – simply try weight watchers, and feel happy again in weeks – guaranteed or your money back! Coffee should perk you right up out of your slump and make you happy all over again, remember, America runs on Dunkin’! Grab some McDonalds french fries – happiness awaits – *ba da da da daaaa! Cheerios, be happy be healthy! Sound familiar? Are we really to believe that are the these we need to make us happy?

Don’t be a sucker

“Happiness does not come about only due to external circumstances; it mainly derives from inner attitudes”

~ The 14th Dalai Lama of Tibet~

Picked up that little pearl of wisdom on the Dalai Lama’s twitter (I know i couldn’t believe he had a twitter account either), and let me tell you good creative people, he’s right.

The fact of the matter is, our bodies are very complex and highly sophisticated things. When you feel depressed, or fat, or tired, or hungry, or lazy, or anything that seems… less than perfect, don’t panic (and step away from the french fries), your body is merely trying to send you a message.

This is a good thing

It is, even though the mainstream media has programmed us to believe otherwise. In America today, we seem to have developed a standard of perfection; a gauge, if you will, that clearly points out what it means to be “normal”, or, “Happy“, and, well… everything else. To ensure that we are Happy 24/7 we will routinely pump our bodies full of pills, or feed ourselves with god-awful fuel, we will go to any seminar, take any class, and just generally blame every-which-one but ourselves! This is madness!

I’m not quite sure how this condition has come about, where we’ve created a standard for ourselves to live up to, but it’s completely unrealistic, and wholly unsustainable for long periods of time. The first thing we need to do in order to break this longstanding spell that has been cast on us all, is to accept that – sometimes – we will be less than fresh (is it just me, or does that sound like an advertisement for a… down there product?). Let me rephrase.

To be human, and to grow toward being truly Happy with our lives, and how we live them, we first must learn to live with the full gambit of our human emotions. Love, hate, envy, lust, fear, trepidation, insecurity and the like, are all essential parts of what it means to be a member of the species – get used to it.

Embrace it. Learn from it. React to it.

These delicate emotions are NEVER things to be medicated away; the proverbial equivalent to sweeping them under the rug. Do you think that “medicine” makes these emotions go away? No. Never. Illogical. When you do this, when you ignore the signs that your psyche is feeding you, signs that if heeded can lead you to a better, happier place, you forfeit the very thing that can help you make the change. Worse yet is that these emotions, when ignored, will always – without fail – come back to haunt you (and I don’t know about you, but I sure can’t afford a shrink in this economy).

“The Journey of a thousand miles, begins with a single step.”

~Lao Tzu

I got that one off the “N” train yesterday on my way into the city. Basically, the message that I’m trying to impart onto you, good creative types, along with the help of my buddies Dal’ and Tzu’ (we’re a crew now, we chill like… all the time), is that sometimes, being happy starts with a change.

Depression might be an indication that something’s wrong. Your not unhappy because you have some chemical imbalance (regardless of what some doctors might tell you), or because your neighbor has a nicer car then you, you are likely longing – whether you know it or not – for something else. Something inner. Intellectual perhaps.

Ask yourself the hard questions. What are your passions? What do you want to do, who do you want to be, and how can you take the first step on your journey towards getting there. Today theses are the questions I would like you all to start asking yourselves. But be prepared, as oftentimes when we are honest with ourselves – especially in the beginning –  it means that we’re in for a big change. That’s OK, my friend Lao Tzu has something else to say on that subject.

“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading”

~Lao Tzu

I tell you, that Tzu’… he’s one smart cookie.

As always creative people, be observant, never judgmental, and always strive to reach for the stars. The only person who can hold you back, is the person who’s at the steering wheel. Who’s driving you?


If anyone has recently made any big changes toward living a happier, healthier life, please share with the class in the comments below. We all love a good pick me up, and will surely rally behind the cause if at all possible. Be well.



  1. Am says:

    Good article. I totally agree. I myself will be distancing myself from individuals that call them selves friends. I decided to stop lying to myself. I know who has my back and I know who does not. I will be much happier when I don’t have these people draining my energy. I stopped messing around with girls and I am focused on myself. Thanks and good job Jared!

  2. nadia says:

    Very well-written, Jared! A lot of people these days do not have the time to breathe properly, let alone relax and reflect. So they turn to pills or chocolates because they believe that it is the only solution that will provide instant results – like happiness. Your friends, Tzu and Lama, are very smart 🙂

    • Yes well that’s why we hang 🙂 Thank you for your kind words. Time is such a relative thing, and the thought of “having it” is nearly laughable these days – but using it wisely is the message I’d hoped to convey. Thanks for dropping by, hope to see you again.

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